Separation: The Biggest Fear

Separation is a topic that has been coming through for me and as I see it one of the biggest fears for mankind. Think about all that happens around separation...

What emotions does a child experience when they are no longer in their mother's womb? My first child was very unhappy when they weren't held by me. My third child would scream with separation anxiety when left with someone else. I was advised to let them cry it out. Today I would choose differently as now I realize separation is the deepest wound we all bear...

Where is my Mom?

When Source, often referred to as God, the Universe, or the Divine, made the profound decision to explore further realms of existence, a significant separation occurred. This moment of individuation marked a pivotal point in the evolution of consciousness, allowing for a rich tapestry of experiences to unfold. As we transitioned from the comforting embrace of unity with the Divine Source, we entered into what many perceive as the illusion of separation. This division, while a necessary aspect of our journey, can evoke a spectrum of emotional responses, often leading to feelings of unworthiness, abandonment, and isolation. In this state of perceived separation, we tend to lose sight of our true identity, which is intrinsically linked to the Divine Source from which we originated. These emotional wounds, stemming from our separation, are frequently exacerbated by the influences of our families, societies, cultures, and religious beliefs. The narratives we inherit can reinforce a sense of disconnection, perpetuating the idea that we are somehow less than divine or that we must earn our way back to the Source. Such beliefs can create a distorted view of the Divine as an external entity that requires appeasement or worship due to perceived wrongdoings or shortcomings. This perspective is fundamentally flawed, as it overlooks the essential truth that we are all integral parts of the Divine Source, inherently deserving of love, acceptance, and belonging. Our existence here is not merely a test or a series of trials but a sacred opportunity to engage in diverse experiences that contribute to our growth and understanding. Each experience we encounter, whether it is labeled as positive or negative, serves a purpose in the grand scheme of our spiritual evolution. They are neither inherently good nor bad; they are simply experiences that enrich our understanding of ourselves and our connection to the Divine. Embracing this perspective allows us to recognize that every moment, every challenge, and every joy is a vital part of our journey back to the realization of our unity with the Divine Source. In this light, we can begin to heal the wounds of separation and reclaim our awareness of our true nature, ultimately fostering a deeper connection to the Divine that resides within us all.

So why do people create more separation? Consider why this phenomenon occurs. Throughout history, human beings have devised countless ways to feel a sense of separation from one another. This has manifested in various forms, including distinctions based on skin color, which has often led to racial divides, as well as socioeconomic classes that create barriers and hierarchies within society. Additionally, geographic boundaries such as different states and countries have further entrenched these separations, fostering a sense of "us" versus "them." Even within more localized contexts, affiliations with sports teams or social groups can cultivate a sense of rivalry and distinction. What do we gain from this feeling of superiority or the notion of "mine, not yours"? This question invites deep reflection and understanding of human psychology and societal constructs. As I ponder these questions, I find myself returning to the idea that all these separations are merely different experiences we create for ourselves. They offer us the chance to be born into a life where everything seems finite, where our identities can be shaped by the divisions we create. The journey, then, is to transition from this finite perspective to one that embraces the infinite possibilities of connection and unity. Along this path, we inevitably encounter a spectrum of feelings, including abandonment, betrayal, and a profound sense of separation from others and from ourselves. These emotions can be deeply painful and isolating, yet they also serve a crucial purpose in our personal growth. As we navigate through these challenges, we undergo a transformative process of realization, awakening to the understanding that we are so much more than the labels and divisions that society imposes upon us. This realization sparks an internal transformation, a shift in consciousness that encourages healing. As we begin to heal, we start to feel a sense of wholeness, recognizing our intrinsic connection to the Divine Source, the universal energy that binds all living beings together. This connection transcends the superficial barriers we have constructed, urging us to embrace our shared humanity. After all, what is fear if not a reflection of our perceived separateness? Fear often arises from the unknown, from the idea that we are isolated and alone in our experiences. When we acknowledge our interconnectedness, we can begin to dismantle the walls that have been built around our hearts and minds. In doing so, we open ourselves to a more profound understanding of love, compassion, and acceptance, allowing us to move beyond the confines of separation and into a realm of unity and belonging. This journey is not only about personal healing but also about contributing to a collective shift towards a more harmonious existence, where the emphasis is placed on our shared experiences rather than our differences.